Allergic to Negativity

Critical thinking and constructive criticism do not equal mean feedback, nasty behaviour, insulting and hurting your feelings.

No one has the right to abuse you emotionally with an excuse that it is for your good. Even a surgeon uses anaesthesia before performing a surgery. When feedback is vicious, the operation can be successful but the patient dies from an unbearable pain.

Constructive feedback is digestible only when it is delivered with compassion and kindness. Even the right messages have to be delivered in the right manner (with good manners and intentions).

A person that gives from time to time a negative remark is not necessarily a negative person. We need balanced view. A negative person is one who find faults with most things, tries to pull you down and make you feel bad as part. One that is insensitive to the impact of her/his words on others and does not make an effort to change despite your compassionate attempts to coach and give another chance.

The definition of a weed is "a valueless plant growing wild, especially one that grows on cultivated ground to the exclusion or injury of the desired crop". Sometimes the weed looks important and beautiful, yet leaving it in your life will suck the energy and nutrition away from your valuable crop.

Toxic people are like cancer, being close to them eats you from the inside. They cause an emotional psychological damage. If you stay too long near a toxic person you can suffer from permanent scars. Negative people spread poison continuously. This can manifest with stress related illnesses.

When you are next to smokers, your hair and cloths usually smell like smoke too. You passively inhale the smoke. When you are near negative people, their "smell" can spill over to you. If it is at work, you are likely to bring it back home and hurt your loved ones or the other-way around, if it is at home, it can ruin your working relationships.

When you feel fear to change, consider the cost of damaging your mental and physical health and cast a dark shadow on your relationships with others!.

A toxic negative person is a one who does not change even after you give her/him a few compassionate chances. Once you conclude that the negativity is a pattern and a character trait (as oppose to correctable mistakes that we all make), that is the time to be COURAGEOUS and say GOODBYE and "fire" that person out of your life.